Love - Redefined

Its a word, that drives people crazy, turn the strongest humans weak. It is sublime and does wonders. You never know when you fall for it. I have seen people going berserk after it. Love definitely turns your world upside down. The basis of this definition is purely my experiences with other people who are so addicted to love, and who ain't.

Initially, I was a little apprehensive of writing about it, thinking I might frame this beautiful four letter word in a stark reality. But, what makes me pen down every little thought is mere amusement. Amusement with all those who have entered this world of love. What I see is;

stories of break-ups, countless frustrated hearts, unrequited love, desperate singles, Few happy faces,

successful marriages, heartbreaks.....all good and all bad. With love, the best and the worst, co-exist.

The more I delved into it, the more I learnt.

Yesterday, like any other day I visited to the Gurudwara near my house to offer my prayers. The moment I stepped in, something disturbed me. I was unable to concentrate. A young girl sat in front of me was sobbing. With a faint voice, she murmured these words to god :

" I love him so much, but he doesn't, please make him love me,

I can even give my life for him".

She cried. I wanted to explain her, "Love can never be forced. If it is yours, it will come back, if it is not, no miracles can happen. For all those who are so in love with someone, never expect. The moment you expect love in return, it looses its magic. "

Another incident that moved me was, recently, the first time a divorce took place of some one really close to me. It was the worst phase of my life ever. When I saw two people separated for reasons like money, power and compromises. It made me wonder why few of us just turn the paradise of love into hell?

Love is definitely not a bounding. Compromises, sacrifices are somethings without which true love cant exist. When two people get into the Short term fairytale romances, happiness is short lived, and meets with an abrupt end.

There is no greater power than love, if it is true. Commitment comes itself. One should not feel it as a trap or as a burden. Even as I write this, All the divorces I have seen and heard of disturb me. The vows taken at the time of matrimony end in less then seconds. Is this love? Where does love disappears? No one can give me the answer. People move on, find a way out, another woman/man to survive. It is beyond my understanding. but that's how it is.

One of the reasons I comprehend for several break-ups and divorces is 'lack of reality check'. Blind love sounds good as long as it doesn't overtakes reality. With love, you must live and let live. Freedom, a liberation should be present. Two people should give space to each other, accepting an individual the way he/she is. It sounds too Utopian, but it isn't.

I should call it my bad luck, I don't know, but the most affairs and marriages I have seen since last few years have been a failure. I have no grudges about love, but I have seen betrayals and loss of loved ones....it has indeed filled in me a fear of my own future. Makes me feel good about those who are single, including me! Rather then a fake love, it is far better not hurry in any union.

For all my Friends who feel their love was denied to them, it is important to know that something which is denied to us, is a great blessing in disguise. Sooner or later, you will come to realize. Whatever happens, happens for the best, trust in this, and feel better to handle the most difficult of situations.

As I walk on my path alone, I pray to god that whenever I meet that someone special, my love should last a lifetime. Giving a benefit of doubt to my fate, which I dare not question!!

With love :)